Dealing with curly hair isn’t easy. For years, I’ve done my best to pretend it’s straight; just full of excess body that needs to be brushed out and tamed into submission.
But then I had my daughter and, darn it, she had curly hair, too! Now what? I suddenly was thrust into role-model mode. At the very least, I wanted to tell her things like, “Embrace your wild, beautiful hair!” and mean it. Saying it is easy. Meaning it when you’ve spent years brushing out your own waves is hard.
I made sure she learned how to care for her hair the way she should – infrequent shampooing, leave-in conditioner, microfiber towel, and a hair dryer with diffuser for the times I couldn’t let it air dry. Oh yeah, I did that for her, but not me.
Recently, however, I looked back and realized something else about myself. I’m changing as in The Change and, for some reason, that’s thrown my everything for a loop.
Now, when women go through a break-up, they’re known for changing their hair. I guess I decided either A. if fertility wanted to break up with me, it was time for new hair or B. if I’m going to immerse myself well and truly in middle age, I might as well just say “To hell with it” and stop fighting my hair.
Whatever the reason, I am committing the next 4 weeks to changing my hair habits. January has already started off with me not having resolutions, yet taking my vitamins every day, going to bed earlier, and deciding to dump candy and excess caffeine. It looks like hair is next!
So, week #1 is a change in shampoo/conditioning routine thanks to the book Curly Girl by Lorraine Massey. I’m following her technique on how to wet, wash, rinse, condition, rinse (again), and dry wavy hair. Hint: it’s a whole lot of head tilting and scrunching. Oh, and no brushing or combing. That’s going to be my main struggle.
Week #2, I plan to pick up some sulfate-free shampoo and lightweight gel or wave definer on payday. For now, here I am all washed and scrunched, without any additional product. Wish me lucky as I work my way from brushed-out waves to Medusa to…???